Promotes reflection and growth whether you like it or

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Promotes Reflection and Growth: Whether you like it or not, conflicts force you to taketime out and think about matters in your life, some of which you might prefer to avoid.Conflict is a time of reassessment. It is a period when you ask yourself what went wrong,what you did, or what could you have done differently.Barriers to resolving relationship problemsBefore you can hope to work through stressful relationships, you will need to understandwhat is getting in the way for you:1) that you may have unrealistic expectations for others,2) that you might be over-personalizing what is going on,3) that you, and the other person, might be deriving benefits from the struggle (power,distraction, stimulation),
4) that the current conflict is a reenactment of previous ones,5) that certain people get to you again and again because of vulnerable issues that havenever been resolved.One significant barrier to resolving relationship difficulties occurs when you keep tryingto defend yourself, to assign blame, and to fix fault by determining who is mostresponsible for the problem. First of all, it is virtually impossible to definitively figureout who is at fault. Secondly, even if you could, what good does that do in terms ofmaking things better?Myths or misunderstandings about conflictConflicts are not always what they seem.Look beneath the surface during anongoing argument and ask yourself what is really happening? What are you reallyfighting about?

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