9. Get over yourself and start giving yourself.10. Find the benefit in every bad experience.11. If at first you do succeed, try something harder.
12Make Failure Your Best FriendThe things which hurt, instruct.—BENJAMIN FRANKLINThe idea that you can make failure your best friend may seem odd to you. But the truth ofthe matter is that failure is either your friend or your enemy—and you are the one whochooses which it is. If you play a dirge every time you fail, then failure will remain yourenemy. But if you determine to learn from your failures, then you actually benefit fromthem—and that makes failure your friend. If you repeatedly use your failures asspringboards to success, then failure can become yourbestfriend. Let me show you what Imean.EMBRACING TRAGEDYHow would you feel about an incident that cost you your nose, half your right arm, and allthe fingers on your left hand? I’m guessing that you wouldn’t have positive feelings. Butthat’s what happened to Dr. Beck Weathers, and he sees that loss as the defining event inhis life—the event that turned everything around for him.“Would I like to have my hands back?” he said in an interview on CBS Evening News.“Sure. Would I like to have my hands back enough to go back to who I was? No.”What event would cause a man to willinglyembracesuch a drastic disability? Theanswer can be found on Mount Everest. You see, Beck Weathers was one of the people onthat peak during the now-famous incident in 1996 when a blizzard cost twelve people theirlives.NO ORDINARY MOUNTAIN TOP EXPERIENCEWeathers was forty-nine years old when he ascended Everest. At that point, he had been amountain climber for ten years. And it consumed him. He acknowledges,I regret the time taken away from my family, from my wife and two children. There’s a large dose ofselfishness involved in such an activity … I realize I was defining myself by climbing and not dealing with therest of my life. It’s an excessive goal, and it never ends. You get about one day of happiness, and then you’replanning your next trip.1Weathers always spent a lot of time in preparation for his next trip. Before Everest, hehad scaled six of the seven summits, the highest mountains on the continents. And foreach climb he underwent a grueling training regimen.For the Everest climb, Weathers signed on with an expedition led by New ZealanderRob Hall. Before the team got to the high camp (at twenty-six thousand feet), Weatherswas doing fine, despite the difficult conditions—bitter cold and one-third of the oxygenpresent at sea level. But as he ascended the peak on May 10, Weathers realized he was introuble. Some years before, he had undergone radial keratotomy surgery to correct hisvision. As he went up the mountain, the altitude caused the lenses in his eyes to flatten