Love is the number one topic tied with religion that

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- Love is the number one topic, tied with religion, that people have always been discussing Myth #1: Make-up sex - It happens far less frequently that the media makes it out to be - For most men, make up sex tells them that the woman is no longer upset and that everything is fine, whether they are or not - For most women, make up sex does not properly resolve the issue - Adds insult to injury - To fool themselves? Myth #2: Living together (Co-habitation) - Make sure you can tolerate each other - It is convenient and cost-effective to move in together - Now, it seems to be a more casual step - Marriage too, becomes a tiny step and a small formality - Living together however, does not predict a lower divorce rate - Many studies show that it is actually a higher divorce rate - Religious people are least likely to live together before marriage - They are also not ‘allowed’ the get divorced - Far more people are forced into staying married to each other - Humans are Irrational (Men or Women) - Moving in is a big investment for both people in the relationship - People don’t like to feel cognitive imbalance; North American people like to believe that we are smart and good - When we do something bad or stupid, we can rationalize it away - Logically, when people do something wrong, they try to rationalize why they should stay in the relationship - When long-term couples are in a stressful relationship, they begin investing in something together (i.e. buying a house together); they are giving each other an excuse to stay together and cannot leave an explanation. - Cognitive Dissonance reduction: - We want to see ourselves as good and positive/ smart. White North Americans don’t want to believe they did something stupid. But in fact they are afraid to admit that they are stupid. - People twist the reality to accept it and feel better. Coz if they accept it, they will tend to ask more questions in order to change it. - It is related to Rationalization. In fact it is a fancy name for it. - Check out lines means no return in a relationship. That is the line truly means you are done in love, commitment. It is broken and will never be fixed.
Myth #3: Arranged marriages - In North America, people in an arranged marriage are happier than people who choose their own partner - In the modern North American system, the parents act more as a dating service than forcing them to actually marry each other - Parents look for things that make a good mate, a good boyfriend or girlfriend - There is still a check for compatibility Myth #4: Opposites attract - Yes, Opposites do attract. - Introverts live, by proxy, through an extrovert - After a while, the extrovert becomes too much; unstable; impulsive - Extroverts like introverts because they are stable and consistent - After a while, the introvert becomes boring coz they get ground. - Most couples that last have similar tastes - Initially, opposites can attract, but after a while, complimentary traits keep a relationship together. - Turkey Drop- You come home after university finishes, you dump your partner then. Myth #5: Mutual breakups and men’s breakup style

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