There are times we will have a week or so falling in the sam routine doing the

There are times we will have a week or so falling in

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routine, doing the same activities, but we don’t get bored. I feel as though despite doing the samething for multiple days in a row it’s different every time. I know this may sound like an oxymoron, but every time we do something, even if we’ve done it a hundred times it feels lime something new each time, making even the same The external form of this dialectic is “desire toconform to conventional patterns and roles for relationships and their desire to assert to uniqueness of their relationship” (Wood, 2000, p84). We don’t really struggle with this dialectic as we don’t feel to much of a need to assert a “uniqueness” to our relationship. Doing what we typically do yields its own unique outcome.I’m not typically one to share information very easily, but in this case we were both very open with one another almost instantaneously. This plays into the expressions/ privacy dialectic as Wood defines it as the desire to be open with some parts of oneself and closed with others. I
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feel as though another one of the reasons X and I became so close so quick is that we shared information with one another. The external form of this is the desire to reveal to the relationship to outsiders and to conceal it from them; in this regard we do not have much tension. We don’t see any reason to conceal that we are friends to others (Wood, 2000, p90). The Incline: Stages Chapter
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This is a picture of stairs, and you’ll notice that they only go up. This is to symbolize the stages in our relationship and how we only progressed “upwards” and escalated. Much like stairs, one can go up them quickly or take their time just like going through the stages of a relationship. In this relationship we went through the stages or “up the stairs” very quickly.To start this chapter I will be going through the stages of coming together to show the escalation of our friendship. Stages are identified by the proportion of one type of communication behavior to another (Knapp, 2014, p34). In this friendship we flew through the interaction stages, the first being initiating which is defined as the stage when we first come together with other people (Knapp, 2014, p38). When we first began talking, we tried to feel oneanother out and put our best selves out there. We tried to have open channels of communication, and once we accomplished this we moved onto the experimenting stage. This stage is when you try to discover the unknown of the other person (Knapp, 2014, p38). This was done to gain breadth in our relationship. I felt like we combined the two stages of intensifying and experimenting with how fast we gained a good depth and breadth in our conversation. Next, we
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went to the Integrating stage, and Knapp said when we commit ourselves to integrating with another person we agree to become another individual (Knapp, 2014, p42). We began doing a lot of the same things like watching sports together, going to the gym; giving us a similar routine. We accomplished the first two stages in our first meeting of one another, and the third within days. I believe the main reason that we went through these stages so quickly was due to our amount of personal disclosure despite this being more characteristic of more intimate stages (Knapp, 2014, p51). The social penetration process helps explain this as it describes the
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