Eastern Asia: more likely to endorse heartbreak/unrequited love associated with passionate love The physiology of passionate love
o The “symptoms” of passionate love resemble those of addiction… o Is it possible they activate the same regions of the brain? Compared across brain scans Ventral tegmental area (VTA) More activated when looking at someone they were passionately in love with Affects the area of the brain associated with pleasure (chocolate, money, cocaine, etc. stimulate the same area) o Suggests that passionate love may have evolved to promote partner choice, which helps to conserve time and energy associated with courtship o Can be overwhelming if our brain is constantly activated by the same stimuli, so… We habituate We start to feel less passionate about the same person over time How can we keep the “fire” going? Maintaining passion requires effort o Doing activities that cause arousal, excitement, passion, etc. o Fear has the same effect as passionate love Novelty matters Some long married couples show passionate love activation o Most couples have cycles of strong and weak periods of passionate love/satisfactory marriage Companionate Love (friendship love) Involves companionship and enjoyment of shared activities or interests Built on a foundation of admiration, trust, and respect Sex is less important Women report higher levels of companionate love o Women initiate breakups more o Men tend to fall in love faster than women What makes a marriage last? o “My spouse is my best friend” o “I like my spouse as a person” o The above quotes contribute to higher marriage satisfaction, but also increase in dependency – negative effect Neural and hormonal level o Activates the areas of the brain associated with caregiving o Tied to vasopressin and oxytocin Love Over Time Passionate love tends to decrease over time Companionate love initially increases
Both decline over the course of marriage Does not decline with age Can we predict relationship longevity? EXAM 2 NOTES: Interdependence Theory Satisfaction Dependence Satisfaction Outcomes >= Comparison Level (CL) = Satisfaction Getting what, and more than, you expect Dependence Outcomes >= Comparison level for alternative (Clalt) = Dependence Degree to which one relies on a relationship for outcomes Can needs be fulfilled by other interactions? o Harder for someone to leave their current relationship if they don’t believe that they could find a better relationship – unsatisfied w/ current relationship, but also unwilling to leave o Satisfied, but seeing better relationships, causing satisfaction to be lowered 2/21/17 Goodness of Outcomes Comparison level greater than outcomes unsatisfied relationship – expectations are greater than their outcomes Comparison level lower than outcomes satisfied relationship – low expectations, but outcomes are much greater Comparison level for Alternatives greater than outcomes
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