Many children have positive relationships with stepparents – negative reactions dissipate. oStudies differ on stepchildren’s emotional or academic problems. oMay want to keep single parents to themselves (initially, and they might want to ruin parent’s relationships)oIntergenerational relationship provide continuity – good in a time of changeSuccessful Stepfamilies oCharacteristics common to successful stepfamilies: Adults let children mourn their lossesAdult forge a strong couple relationship Important for child to see the new parents stronger relationship than divorced coupleThe step-parenting role proceeds slowly Disciplinary role gradual except with very young kidsDevelop own family rituals
How can we predict relationship commitment? What types of communication (good and bad) do we use in discussions? What is victim blaming? What is rape culture? How do we react to sexual assault? What makes us jealous? What challenges do blended or step families face? What is the paradox of social support? What is the state of marriage in the USA right now (when do we marry, why do we marry, what predicts divorce, who is most likely to marry, etc.)?Work out good arrangements between the children’s householdMore friendly co-parenting is the betterRealistic expectations – of what the new relationship are going to be Realistic Expectations oLove may or may not develop later oChildren will feel confused oChildren may be unwilling to accept authority from stepparent. Rather than continuing to fight that step has no authority – it may be better to accept it and give up End of Life Bereavement Who are the primary caregiver of dying people oTheir child: 35%oSpouse 30%oSibling 9%oParent 9%oSomeone else 16%o75% of the time, these people, caregivers, are female Some may account that women are more likely to outlive spouse, but not full explanation Study of female with chronic Female daughters more likely to take care of parentsThe Loss Effect oBereavement– especially spouse, it can lead to own death – in the first year (effect on body)emotional effects can last longer – leads to physical illness Evidence for the loss effect oDays of disability oSymptom reportsoDoctor hospital visits oMorality oImmune system function disorder There tend to be short term effects not long Most people recover from loss of a love one over time, doesn’t mean that stop experiencing sadness. oPeople’s reaction to loss can vary greatly. Just like we talked about sexual assault. The way we expect someone to act when they lose a loved one, does not mean that is how they will react. Some people can seem like the aren’t doing the “right kind of grieving” People who are bereaving have a wide set of ways that they may act.