AIMS: To discuss sexual orientation, from definitions to what it means in practice. To make participants aware of their own misconceptions and stereotypes. To understand the concepts of heteronormativity and heterosexism (homoprejudice). Materials Flipchart paper & pens (continue with the one used in Activity 5) Preparation Continue with the flip chart used in Activity 5. This activity flows to the bottom left corner, the third quadrant. Only the word “SEXUAL ORIENTATION” is written on the top of the THIRD quadrant.
Page 45of 81Suggested ProcessInstructions to the group Ask what the word “Sexual Orientation” means. Suggested questions: What do you think it is? Do you have a sexual orientation? Do all people have a sexual orientation? What is your sexual orientation? Do not give the answer immediately, allow people to think a bit. Definition of a sexual orientation: Sexual orientation is about attraction and feelings. Attraction has many levels - sexually, physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. Thus, it is not only about sex!Now start to write down the different sexual orientations. Heterosexual. Hetero - means opposite, therefore attracted to the opposite sex; a man attracted to women, or woman attracted to men. This attraction is sexually, emotionally, intellectually, physically and spiritually. (Straight). Homosexual. Homo – means same, therefore attracted to the same sex; a man who is attracted to a man, a woman who is attracted to a woman, on ALLthe different levels of attraction, not just sexually. Ask them if they understand what the words gay and lesbian meant, and what the difference is. Write down it down next to the term homosexual. Although being gay or lesbian is an identity, there are some women, especially in the Afrikaans contexts, who do not like to be called a lesbian, because the word is offensive to them. They prefer to be called a gay woman, although the term gay, refers to a homosexual man. The “label” is not important, what is important is that the person feels comfortable within their own identity. Bisexual. Bi - means two, therefore attracted sexually to both sexes; a person attracted to people of both sexes on ALLthe different levels of attraction, not just sexually (as mentioned above). This is a sexual orientation in its own right and often misjudged and stereotyped as promiscuity or people who can’t choose. This could be the case for some, but for most bisexual individuals, this is a slap in the face.
Page 46of 81Very important to remember: People of all sexual orientations can be having multiple partners (preferably do notto use the “promiscuous” – it seems judgmental, rather use the term multiple concurrent partners). Ask the group if there is anyone who does not have a sexual orientation. Often, there is a misperception that only homosexuals have a sexual orientation. Everybody has a sexual orientation. It is unclear what determines a person’s sexual orientation. Often the question is asked; “Where does homosexuality comes from?” Well, the same place as other sexual