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important skills and tips for improving listening skills generally as well as between partners. • Use nonverbal body language, such as looking at the other person, nodding the head, and using sympathetic facial expressions. • Ask questions, making brief comments about what the other person says, and share personal experiences to encourage your partner to continue. • Engage to hear the other person. Listening is not waiting for the other person to stop talking. Fully listen by dropping defenses to hear what the other person is saying. • Paraphrase the other person's message. Summarizing what is said helps the listener to understand what the other person means. The paraphrase allows the person the opportunity to correct any misunderstandings. Paraphrasing may slow down the conversation, which may also make a difficulc discussion feel safer. • Create ground rules for important discussions. Examples for these rules might be do not interrupt the other person and the listener needs to paraphrase what the other person has said before beginning to talk. • Make eye contact. In the United States and in some other cultures, eye contact is a vital aspect of face-to-face communication. If a person is from another culcure, be aware that eye contact may be invasive, disrespectful, or intimidating. • Be supportive. Comments that are supportive may lessen the other person's fear of talking about sex. These comments create mutual empathy and can increase the love chat flows between partners. • Express positive regard for the other person. Conveying care and respect may encourage a person to talk about difficulc or painful topics. Ulcimately, let your partner know you will continue to care, even when you may disagree about an issue. Styles of Communication It is important to understand how we tend to com- municate. John Gottman's research in relationships and communication shows that it is not how much a couple fights but rather how they fight that deter- mines the success of their relationship. Gottman believes that to grow in relationships, people must reconcile their differences. In fact, he believes that fighting, when it airs grievances and complaints, can be one of the healchiest things a couple can do for their relationship ( Gortman, 1994). Couples who are considered "volatile" experience a high level of conflict in their relationship. Gottman's research has largely centered around heterosexual married couples. To categorize mar- riages, he noted such factors as the frequency of fights, facial expressions, tone of voice, content of speech, and physiological responses (such as pulse rate and amount of sweating) of both partners
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COMMU N ICATION Matters Do Gay and Lesbian Couples Communicate Better? Though research about gay and lesbian relationships is lacking, John Gattman and colleagues (2003) have found some interesting differences in interactions between heterosexual and homosexual couples in committed relationships. The research showed that when discussing areas of conflict in romantic rela- tionships, homosexual couples began the interaction much more positively and far less negatively than het- erosexual couples. Additionally, homosexual couples

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