drug addict who was very physically and mentally abuse to not only me but also very mentally abusive to my daughter. While no what her father engages in has no bearing on his parents (the paternal grandparents) the paternal grandparents have consistently had the father around my daughter and even lied about forcing my child to have a “visit” with her father to which has caused severe emotional trauma to my daughter. In this situation the paternal grandparents are generally good people who mean well but they are blind to who their son really is and blind to the mental turmoil they are causing their grandchild by their repeated actions as my daughter hada very close relationship and bond with them when she was younger but as she has gotten older and is able to figure things out for herself she has done just that. This leaves her feeling that she has some kind of obligation to visit with her paternal grandparents but at the same time really struggles with being around the grandparents due to their continued support of their son who is also her father that has been completely uninvolved in her life.
So, while I see your side that grandparents are important in a child’s life as I also believe this to be true I unfortunately also feel that more consideration needs to be taken into account and all aspects of the situation need to be considered as not all issues are always able to be resolved as in my own personal experience with this very situation. We have tried every resolution possible in an attempt to continue visits with her paternal grandparents and they agree to these resolutions however, then once she (my daughter) is with them they do not hold true to these resolutions. It is unfortunate most certainly but what is even more unfortunate is I’m certain my particular situation is not isolated to just myself and my family.In a study that I found through my research of this topic while not directly related to grandparents rights does correlate with my thoughts and expressions about the struggle some face when it comes to allowing grandparents visitation when they involve and allow an abusive parent to be involved that is otherwise not allowed or supposed to be involved. This particular study looked at the “in the best interest of the child” statement and how during child custody hearings many judges do not consider domestic violence when looking at either parent to determine if the child would or would not be safe with that parent in addition to the researchers focusing on some very key recent research on the effects of domestic violence on children to support their claim that more judges need to be looking at domestic violence history when determining what is best for the child (Bailey, 2013). The concluding of this study found that family courts should not only accept but implement newer researches of the effects of domestic violence on children into their decision making and take into account that the more a child is