She didnt have a lot to say after that she understood

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She didn’t have a lot to say after that. She understood what I meant, because I communicated it to her. I could tell she still didn’t want me to ever wear it, but she appreciated the fact that I was willing to not wear it around her. This was actually really affective. She actually told me she was grateful for my improved attitude and willingness to communicate. I was impressed when she told me that she never tells me these things to hurt me, but to help me. She told me how beautiful she thought I was. It was awesome to watch her communicate once I decided to convey to her what I actually thought and felt. Once again it was proved to me that communication is key! In the future, I will remember to always communicate exactly how I feel. I then focused on the self is a process . In this class I learned that the self is multidimensional. It’s a combination of physical, cognitive, emotional, social, and moral aspects. I started to realize that my Mother’s criticism was starting to shake my confidence of myself physically. Which then made my emotions go crazy, which, in turn, then made me cognitively think I wasn’t enough. It was starting a huge ripple effect that really shook my self-esteem. Sholomskas in 1986 researched this exact topic. They discovered that one of the main factors that contribute to women’s self-esteem is through
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their maternal identification. If their mothers see worth in them, they are more likely to see worth in themselves. A mother’s own self-esteem also influences her daughter’s self- worth because of example. The article also discussed how important it was for the child to be nurtured and accepted by their mother. This article really made me realize that my mother was actually lowering my confidence in myself, which she probably had no idea about. I decided to talk to my Mom about how she was affecting my view on myself. One day while she was visiting me here in Logan, she told me that my hair needed to have more volume. I worked up the courage and said, “Mom, I understand that you like my hair bigger, but when you say things like that I don’t feel pretty. I feel like you, the one who should always see the best in me, doesn’t even see beauty. I love you Mom, but sometimes I would love for you to find the good things about me, rather than the negative all the time. It makes me feel so unattractive.” She then told me how beautiful she thought I was and apologized for making me feel that way because it was never her intent. I have always known it wasn’t, but the teenager inside me was always trying to talk myself out of it. It was so nice to hear those words out of her mouth. After that, I felt like my Mom told me how pretty she thought I was more often. I understand that my worth doesn’t depend on my mother’s opinion of my appearance, but it’s amazing how different I see myself when she tells me that she sees good when she looks at me. It means more to me than she will ever understand. The positive comments started improving, and the negative ones started going away. It’s been awesome to watch my view of myself improve just by her kind words.
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