Think about three of your relationships with non

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Think about three of your relationships with non-family members. What was the original basis of that relationship and what is the most important element of that relationship currently? Try to generate at least one potential reason for each. 2.3 Complementarity and “Opposites Attracting” The idea of “similarity” and “opposites attracting” might seem contradictory and they are to a certain extent. True opposites do not attract but if the opposites are complementary, and the strength of one compensates for the weakness of another or satisfies the need of another, then it becomes an attractive difference. I have formed a relationship with a colleague at work that revolves around research. We both hold similar research interests but while he is very strong from an analytical and statistical perspective, I am not but I seem to be good at putting the statistical information into words, which he finds difficult. I also enjoy editing, while he enjoys writing (but not editing) so our partnership not only has similarities but also complementarities. 2.4 Proximity This is one area that should make a lot of intuitive sense. The more time we spend around someone, the more we find out about them, the more we will know about our similarities and complementarities. We simply have more information with which to decide whether or not a relationship is something we are interested in. We will also have more information to decide what kind of a relationship we may be interested in forming. Proximity is a factor that has changed substantially over the course of human evolution, especially in the last 100 or so years because of technology. We no longer have to live in the same village or within physical proximity to encounter other people. For example, in the last several years we have witnessed videos being shared online, and demonstrations/rallies/protests being organized via text and social networking in response to those videos. These gatherings were organized in different locations all over the world, not just in a high school parking lot in one hometown. This indicates that proximity need not be thought of as merely on a physical dimension because online proximity must be considered as well. I recently collaborated on an academic project with someone who I have never met in person. She heard a webinar (an online seminar/talk) that I gave at a conference and contacted me via email. We communicated back

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