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As she feels her attraction to Felipe growing, Gilbert asks Liyer to impart some wisdom about romance. He does not know the word, so she tries to define it as involving "Kissing and sex and marriage—all that stuff." Liyer explains that he has only ever had sex with one woman, his wife, who is dead. He goes on to explain that Nyomo is not actually his wife; she is actually his brother's wife. When Liyer's wife died, Nyomo began splitting her time between the two households, doing her duty to take care of him as well as his brother—no sex is involved. He loved his wife very much and he misses her, but he visits her every day through meditation.
When Gilbert tells Wayan about the money she has raised for her, it is almost too much for Wayan to absorb. When it finally sinks in, she is grateful beyond words. She already has the ideal place in mind, a place she has dreamed of owning one day. So Gilbert goes with Wayan to be sure the money will be accessible as soon as it is needed, and it seems things can now move along very quickly. Big Ketut, Little Ketut, and Tutti are just as thrilled as Wayan.
Gilbert continues seeing Felipe regularly. She introduces him to Wayan and to Liyer, both of whom approve of him. Felipe takes her to the beach, which she has not been to since coming to Bali, and they have a lovely 10-hour day in the sun—swimming and talking, napping and reading, eating and drinking. On the way home Felipe asks "should we have an affair together, Liz?" She declines. He makes a compelling case for why it would be a good idea, but she still says no.
Gilbert has a very restless night that involves eating a pound of fried potatoes, masturbating, and doubting herself and questioning her refusal to let this wonderful man love her. When she awakens in the morning, she thinks that she is "so glad [she] had made the decision to stay alone."
Although she is obviously falling for Felipe, Gilbert refuses to break her vow of chastity. It's one more signal that perhaps she will be able to maintain her equilibrium after all. She is still experiencing romance, but she is experiencing it with maturity and even wisdom. She knows better than to fall in love "fast and without measuring risks," as she always has in the past. She respects the "vital transformation" taking place in her and the fact that it "needs time and room in order to finish its process undisturbed." This is a valuable lesson for both Gilbert and her audience. The most profound healing and spiritual journey takes time to unfold fully, and the readers of Gilbert's memoir are benefiting from Gilbert's long and reflective quest to find herself once again.