Family (Part 1)
The Importance of Communication for Families
Positive relationship between marital satisfaction and couples ability to communicate
Not lack of communication, per se, but the quality of communication
Problem if destructive (put-downs, ne
Family Systems (Part 3)
Goals of childrens misbehavior
Attention getting, power struggle, revenge
Therapist looks at parents actions and reactions to these behaviors
Family Systems Therapy
GOALS OF THERAPY
Establish and support parents
Family Systems (Part 4)
Therapists work collaboratively with families, not as experts who can solve problems, but
as consultants and coaches who can work to bring the familys dormant capacities to the
Therapists respect the familys unique cultur
Family Systems (Part 5)
A Couples Challenge: Forming a Healthy Spousal Subsystem
Must develop complementary patterns of mutual support, or accommodation
Must develop a boundary that separates couple from children, parents and outsiders.
Three different types of couples: Traditional, Independent, and Separate
L. Webster- She explained what I know as a traditional couple. Both parents working and grandparents
helping. Each parent played an important role
Module 8 Written Assignment
Identify several APPROPRIATE decision choices that parents CAN OFFER TO THEIR
CHILDREN in each of the following age groups:
Infants to age 2.
As a mother of 4 and I currently have a 2-year-old I think it is very i
MRCH Assign 4
Then answer the following questions:
1. Figure Waynes paycheck amount for this week: (see Chapter 5).
He worked 30 hours at $8.00 per hour which is _$240.00_?
His federal income tax withholding is $22.00.
HIs state income tax with
1) If your employer deposits your paycheck directly into your account it is called:
a) salary deposit b) direct deposit
c) withheld deposit
d) personal deposit
2) Reconciling your bank account every six months is sufficient.
True or Fa
1. There are several strategies that help people to save their money. Name five strategies and
choose the one that is easiest and best for YOU to follow.
There are many strategies like Pay yourself first, save by the numb
Family Systems (Part 2)
Boundaries: For families to function well, subsystems must maintain boundaries.
Adaptation: Despite resistance to change each family system constantly adapts to
maintain itself in response to its members and environment.
Family Systems (Part 1)
Family Systems Theory
In the 1950s Dr. Murry Bowen introduced a transformational theory, Family Systems
Family Systems Theory
Families are SYSTEMS of interconnected and interdependent individuals.
Family (Part 10)
In addition to
better emotional health,
children (and adults)
eat healthier when meals are eaten together as a family!
#3 Hold Family Meetings
Family meetings are
a good place to talk about
topics that are more serious,
and that require w
Family (Part 2)
May be intentional or unintentional
Arguing with spouse is intentional; children hearing argument may be unintentional
Person who receives the message sent by the sender
Listener (but more active than that)
May be intentional or u
Family (Part 3)
Differences in Emphasis in Communication
Males tend to focus on cognitive elements
Focus is on problem solving and on end result
More likely to use communication for competition
Females tend to focus on
Family (Part 4)
We Communicate Using Two Basic Channels
Verbal communication (digital)
Think of a digital clock
Can break it into communication bits
What you would see in a transcript of a conversation
What is communicat
Family (Part 5)
Computer - very correct, very reasonable, shows no semblance of feelings
Distracter - does or says irrelevant things to whatever anyone else is saying or doing
Functional Communication Pattern
Leveler - straight-forward communication, no
Family (Part 6)
Both feel victimized by other and neither willing to take responsibility for setting things
Both feel innocent, denying responsibility, making excuses, disagreeing with negative
mind-reading, cross-complaining, repeating themselves
Family (Part 7)
In Other Words
An ounce of prevention is worth
a pound of cure.
Dealing with problems before they get too out of hand is always better in the long run!
The following slides will give
some tips on how to help improve
Family (Part 8)
School field trips
Hockey and dance schedules
Shift work schedule and sleep times
What About Shift Workers?
Its often difficult for shift workers
to keep up with all of the things
that are going on in
Family (Part 9)
#2 Have More Family Meals
Many families struggle with
finding the time when they
can all be together. But, its
well worth the effort.
is a great time
for families to connect and
check in with one another.
Assign 2 Makeup
After reading Chapter 2 and viewing the Power Points, go to Table 2.1 on PAGE 36.
There are six Communication Characteristics for Couples and Families. There are
communication levels for each characteristic are poor, g