We are attracted to others whose presence is rewarding to us. Either direct or indirect rewards.
o Direct reward: evident pleasures that they provide to us. Like appraisal from them, or simply their
beauty that is very aesthetically pleasing.
Chapter 13 Dissolution and loss of relationship
About half of all marriages in America end in divorce.
Half of all adults in US are married.
of children are living with single parent, mostly women.
Overall, marriages are less likely to last than they us
Chapter 12 Power and Violence
Social power is the ability to influence the behaviour of others and to resist their influence on us.
From an interdependency perspective, power is based on the control of valuable resources. Ex, if I
have something that you
Chapter 8 - Love
A huge majority of American men and women consider romantic love to necessary for marriage.
But this is a relatively new thing. In not so long ago, still around 1960s, majority of the people
would marry each other for reasons other than
Chapter 1 Building Blocks of Relationships
Humans suffer when we are deprived of social contact, we are social beings, and we require intimate
Intimate relationships differ from casual relationships in 6 ways: knowledge, caring, interdepen
Darwins theory of natural selection
o Variation of characteristics within species
o Inheritance of some variance, pass down across generations
o Selection, particular heritable characteristics are more likely to
produce offspring that survive,
Chapter 8 Love
The regions of the brain that regulate our sexual desire for others appear
to be different from those that manage our feelings of attachment and
commitment to our lovers
Three biological systems that control components of love experiences:
Chapter 6 Interdependence
Social exchange: people seek interactions with maximum reward at
minimum cost, stay with partners who provide sufficient profit, mutual
exchange of desirable rewards with others
o Three key elements of social exchange: outcomes,
Social cognition: the processes of perception and judgment with which we make sense of our social worlds.
First impressions are important, and they will continuously influence interactions with the person months
Whether first impressions
Chapter 10 Stress and Strains
Fueled by our need to belong, we care deeply about what our intimate partners think of us.
Relational value: the degree to which others consider their relationships with us to be valuable, important or
Therefore, it i
Chapter 6 Interdependency
Social life entails the mutual exchange of desirable rewards with others, a process called social exchange.
Reward refers to anything within an interaction that is desirable and welcome and that brings enjoyment or
Chapter 5 Communication
We often face an interpersonal gap, such that the senders intentions differ from the effect on the
receiver. This is more likely to happen in close relationships.
Nonverbal behaviour provides information about peoples moods or mea
Chapter 4 Social Cognition
Primacy effects: a tendency for the first information we receive about
others to carry special weight, along with our instant impression
and out stereotypes, in shaping our overall impression of them