Notes on Couples
"a living arrangement"
share less emotionally
high conflict avoidance
mix of the three
separate husband and traditional wife
High Conformity and conversation
Notes on Deception
People find out lies through
usually 3rd parties
people detect deception correctly 55% of the time
friends get away with lying more than strangers
assuming someone tells the tr
Notes on Divorce
High conversation and low conformity
Low conversation and conformity
John Gottman critical periods for divorce
1/5 of marriages end in first 5 years - prevalence of negative expression
marital satisfaction is at
Notes on Conformity Orientation
is there pressure to have similar attitudes, values and beliefs?
High Conformity - communication reflects obedience to parents and other adults,
interdependence of family members, conflict avoidance
Notes on Equity Theory
Are we contributing equally?
Underbeneftting - feel resentful
Overbennefiting - feel guitly
A Social Exchange Theory
Elements of Conflict
Me: My feelings attitudes, intentions and goals.
You: Your feelings attitudes, i
Notes on Dialectical Tensions
Conflicts between two important but opposing needs or desires.
Autonomy - Being independent
Connection - Being close to others
Openness - Disclosure and honesty
Closedness - Keeping things to y
Notes on The Looking Glass Self
The Looking Glass Self
explains how a reflected appraisal works; we imagine how we appear to others, how they
evaluate those perceived images, and we develop our self-concepts based on those
Notes on Meta Communication
communication about communication.
two dimensions of communication competence
A readiness to perceive oneself favorably.
Notes on Forms of Power
Forms of Power
Reward - Power based on the ability to reward for compliance
Coercive - Power based on the ability to punish for noncompliance
Referent - Power based on liking, admiring, and being attracted to the powerful party
Notes on System
any set of interrelated parts that work together to form an integrated whole
Families are systems because they consist of individual people and relationships that come
together to create a family unit
Family Systems Theory
The relationship I will be evaluating, analyzing and working on throughout the course is one I have with
an ex-partner of mine. The status the relationship right now is that there is not a great line of
communication, it is kind of one of those on and off