daughter, let us come to a right understanding. Into one house in this
neighbourhood they shall never have admittance. I will not encourage the
imprudence of either, by receiving them at Longbourn.
A long dispute followed this declaration; but Mr. Bennet
That is, innovators become great in the same way that
everybody else does.
Yet we still face those research studies showing how people
get stuck in ruts when they deal repeatedly with the same
kinds of problems. How can these be squared with the
. What could I do if they wouldnt do
How did you get out? he asked
hoarsely. When did it end?
When I was fourteen. I thought I was
having my period, but there was too
much blood. My mother panicked and
took me to the emergency room. Id had
A coach would ask you questions about what end result
you want and check if you had everything you needed,
what other equipment/ ingredients you might need, and
check with you that it matched your priorities.
A mentor would share his or her recipe with
TRANSFORMING YOUR INNER CRITIC
INTO YOUR INNER COACH
One of the most powerful exercises for retraining your inner critic is to teach it to tell you the
total truth. (See Principle 29, Complete the Past to Embrace the Future.) To transform your
Be positive. Begin and end your feedback with positive comments. Beginning with negative
comments immediately puts the speaker on the
defensive and can create so much internal noise
that she or he stops listening.
Be constructive. Give the speaker some su