STAGES OF CHANGE
Think about a situation in which you have a toothache. Identify the stage of change revealed in each of the following situations:
Now think about a change that you have made and identify each of the stages that you went through. Next, think about a current problem or issue. What stage of change are you in now for this problem or issue? What support do you think you need in order to move on to the next stage?
The moment you have a toothache, you start to contemplate whether you should go to the dentist or just held the pain in, while contemplating you think about the pros and cons when you go to the dentist or to not go there. After reaching to some conclusion, since you are not ready to go there because of the money. You wait for it to heal on its own or you either wait or prepare money so that you can go to the dentist some day.
One of few examples of change in my life is when I have to resign to my position because I am no longer happy with my work, the first stage I had was precontemplation, I was in denial that I am no longer happy, at first I held it in, I just cried every night because I don't want to admit to myself that I am no happy with my work and that I need money because who does not need money in times of a pandemic. After weeks of denial, I began to contemplate the pros and cons when I resign from my position. Whether if I'll be doing the right thing or not. After weighing, I began to prepare myself, I look for other jobs that I can have after I resign to my post, I prepare myself by saving a lot and not spend too much especially since I do not know when I'll be able to look for a job. After preparing, I act upon it, I submitted my resignation letter. And lastly was maintenance, I decided to look for ways that I will not be able to think about resigning from my past work and enjoy the current wok that I have.
For the current issue or problem is that I am having problems with my boyfriend or my relationship with him, I think if I were to think what stage am I is I am between pre-contemplation (1st stage) and contemplation (2nd stage). I am in between because it's not that I am in denial, I already accepted the fact that we are both different and we want different things in life it's just that I am still not sure if this is really what I want which is to break up with him at the same time, I am weighing things. The support that I need is a confirmation from my closed ones if this is what I should really be doing at the same time, if he commits a mistake then maybe it will push me to break up with him.